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feel so privileged that you’ve allowed me to step into your life. I understand how difficult it is to be open with a stranger, and my number one goal is to create a space that allows for the natural and comfortable unfolding of your experience. I know that the process of therapy can be challenging and I’m here to provide you with the tools necessary so that you can meet challenges with strength, courage, and a plan.

Working with Me

As a child of first-generation immigrants, I’ve been exposed to the various challenges of acclimating to new environments and finding my place in the world. I understand the impact of endings, like a divorce or death, and the power of beginnings, like a move, a new relationship, or career change. These transitions can be confusing and distressing, requiring you to reflect on your identity and reconfigure the dynamics of your life to meet you where you are now.

The wound is the place where the Light enters you.– Rumi

My approach is both relational and in-depth, characterized by warmth, compassion and collaboration. For me, it is truly an honor and gift to be alongside your journey towards self-discovery and healing. I’m straightforward without being harsh, providing you the skills and insight needed to heal your pain and establish & maintain healthy relationships.

I believe that deep, lasting change occurs when the underlying root of distress is identified and worked through. I incorporate elements of cognitive behavioral therapy to identify unhelpful thought processes and provide practical tools in overcoming them, and I rely heavily on psychodynamic principals to explore your history. So, together we can understand how your entire life is affecting the current challenges you face.

Who I Work With

Dating and Relationship Counseling for Individuals

These pains you feel are messengers. Listen to them.– Rumi

• Do you feel lonely and long for a loving relationship with a responsive partner?
• Do you often find yourself repeating patterns of choosing unsuitable partners that end painfully?
• Do you seem to attract people who are not ready for a committed relationship?
• Are you currently in a relationship, but unsure if it’s the right relationship for you?
• Are you struggling to heal from a difficult breakup?

If you are single and struggling with any of these issues, reeling from a break-up, or in a relationship where you’re not getting your needs met, I can help.

I am a relationship specialist and AACAST Certified Couples and Sex Therapist. Prior to becoming a therapist, I worked with one of the nation’s expert matchmakers and leading dating coach, where I learned successful dating approaches and effective relationship advice.   I gained a valuable perspective, which I now relay to my clients, on the differences in male and female dating approaches and experiences.

I provide relationship therapy and dating coaching for singles that have struggled to create or sustain fulfilling intimate relationships. I will help you identify insecurities or old patterns that may be stifling relationships and then help you clarify the type of relationship you want and show you ways to manifest it. I will also help you recognize and change unhealthy, unconscious attractions and immediately spot red flags in a dating partner.

If you are not currently in crisis, but have reached a point where you feel ready to take active steps to address issues such as difficulty dating, loneliness, fear and self-doubt, we can tackle these matters together in order to create a happier, more fulfilling life.

No matter how long you’ve struggled, or how old you are, I can help you heal.
I will hold a space where you can be heard without judgment. The uniqueness of your circumstance will be honored and respected. With compassion and collaboration, I can help you tap into your own inner wisdom about what is right for you so that you can begin making more fulfilling choices.

Couples and Sex Therapy

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.– Rumi

If you’ve never experienced couples therapy, it may seem a bit uncomfortable and daunting at first. To allow a third party into your intimate relationship is challenging and brave.  The truth is that while couples counseling can get intense at times as we address the root causes of conflicts, it doesn’t have to be a painful experience. Oftentimes, the biggest hurdle is making it to the first session.  I understand this trepidation and I do everything in my power to provide you both with a safe space of non-judgment and compassion.

Although your relationship may now have more bad days than good, where even the smallest thing can trigger discord, I want you to know that there is still hope.  Where there is a breakdown, there is always an opportunity for a breakthrough.  With a bit of help and guidance, you and your partner can come through this experience stronger than ever.

As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Couples and Sex Therapist, my primary focus is on communication. Resolving any relationship conflict begins with clear and open communication, in a space where emotions can be identified and set aside so as not to hinder true listening and deep understanding of one another.

I focus on teaching you how to express your feelings and needs without using anger, criticism and blame, and how to listen, without defensiveness, so that your partner feels understood and cared for. Once you truly feel heard, we are able to relate to each other, connect and create the foundation necessary for resolving the underlying issue(s).

I hold a safe, non-judgmental space for you to talk openly about sex and sexuality, such as improving sexual intimacy, sexual desire or arousal issues, and sexual anxieties or difficulties. Our sexuality is an intrinsic part of who we are. When we are not confident or self-expressed in this part of our life, it can affect our sense of self and our relationship. When we don’t feel comfortable talking about these types of issues, it can induce anxiety, defensiveness and feel very isolating. I will be there to help you both navigate these issues successfully and compassionately.

Therapy for Creatives

To practice any art, no matter how well or badly, is a way to make your soul grow. So do it– Kurt Vonnegut

Creativity and self-expression is a gift. It’s a gift to have the ability to transform an idea or feeling into an art form, from imagination or sense, into something real. It’s a gift to be able express it, and a gift to share it with the outside world.

Creatives are the bravest, boldest people I know. To get up in front of a crowd and perform, to be in your most vulnerable state, up on display for the world to see, you risk judgment, criticism and rejection. That to me is true strength and courage.

I know how frustrating it can feel when you are not able to expend your creative energy and express your art. It can feel like a dampening of your spirit. I know you feel the most alive when you are in being your creative self.

I know what it’s like to hustle, to work multiple jobs trying to make the pieces of the puzzle fit so you can do what you need in order to write, perform, or record. The ups and downs cause internal and external instability, which can feel exhausting, soul crushing, and anxiety provoking. Sometimes you question why you even do it. And wonder how, at times, the one thing that had initially been your source of healing is also your source of distress.

But you’re reminded of why you do it when you have those beautiful moments…the rush of creating something out of nothing, the euphoria and adrenaline after you walk off stage after a performance, those moments make you feel so alive and remind you why you sacrifice so much.

Often times, you feel plagued with self-doubt and criticism but you are the only one truly getting in your way. Fear and damaging old ideas about yourself constrain you from reaching your full potential. Therapy can help you learn to recognize, nurture and heal your inner artist.

Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit.– E. E. Cummings

My Journey as an Artist

I began my early years as a musician and songwriter where I learned the ins and outs of the entertainment industry and met some of the bravest people I know today. I strongly identify with this part of myself, because like you, it is more than a career, it is part of my soul, spirit and identity. I carry with me an understanding of what it’s like to pursue something you’re passionate about and the emotional toll it can take when you are met with rejection and criticism. I also understand how deeply gratifying it feels when you achieve goals that once seemed light years away.

Through these experiences, I’ve applied various therapeutic techniques to my own life in order to tackle performance anxiety, overcome the strong inner-critic within myself, and free myself from other people’s opinions.

I help performers, artists and writers cope with issues unique to the creative fields such as creative blocks, rejection and perfectionism getting in the way of reaching their goals. Together, we will identify old wounds or damaging ideas about yourself to help you heal, grow and reach your full potential.

I’m here to support you in achieving change and reaching your goals & dreams.

The world always seems brighter when you’ve just made something that wasn’t there before.– Neil Gaiman

Clinical Experience

I am grateful to have completed my education at a nationally accredited Marriage and Family Therapy program and my clinical training at the NESS Counseling Center, which gave me an opportunity to work with diverse clients from all walks of life, and where I was exposed to the various trials of the human experience.

I have completed a two-year fellowship at UCLA receiving a Certification in Couples and Sex Therapy through The Association of Couples and Sex Therapists. Here I had the privilege of learning from leading experts in the field of couples and sex therapy, where my training integrated the latest research in neuroscience and psychobiology into the theoretical and clinical approach treating relational, couple and sexual issues. As a therapist in Beverly Hills, CA I treat anxiety, depression, relationship & sex issues, and issues unique to the creative field.

I offer a free phone consultation session to answer any of your questions and see if we’re a good fit. To schedule your free session, please email or call me anytime (888) 494-7788 ext 712

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