ecoming a mother is miraculous, exciting, exhilarating, meaningful, beautiful, and inspiring. It’s also extremely difficult. It’s life-changing, and it’s not always easy to wrap your mind around the woman that you’ve become and what you may have left behind. That is why we created a specialty therapy for moms. Because even with all the love and joy you get from being a parent, there’s this tiny part of you that can’t get past the fact that your identity is now (almost) all about being a mom.
After becoming a parent, you are responsible for raising a tiny human. As if that obligation isn’t overwhelming enough, you’re also supposed to take care of yourself so that you’re healthy, happy and energetic enough to be a pillar of your family.
You Need Support After Having a Baby
If you gave birth, from the moment you started developing your birth plan, you were probably told that the most important thing was to focus on having a healthy baby. But what about your own health? What happened to valuing the mother’s experience?
Birth is one of the most intimate, vulnerable, and powerful events that you will undergo. However, most women’s needs are not met during labor, delivery, and recovery. Many women don’t even know that they can speak up about their care during the birth process.
Research shows that feeling in control is crucial to a satisfying birth experience. However, modern western medicine doesn’t put you in the driver’s seat. Plus, it’s easy for you to feel as though you’re not in charge of your body as it responds to the hormonal ambush that occurs before, during, and after birth.
No matter what labor and delivery were like, you may be dealing with trauma from everything that you went through. You don’t have to power through the feelings that you’re having on your own. Allowing yourself to process your birth experience in therapy for new moms helps you work through fear, disappointment, anger, and shock.
Most women experience physical pain after they have a child. More than 50 percent of mothers report that postpartum discomfort interferes with their daily activities.
Even if you don’t need physical support, you have to navigate your emotions after bringing baby home. New mothers experience high levels of stress, exhaustion, and sleep loss within the first several months after having a little one.
Learning how to manage your emotional highs and lows as your body tries to find a new normal can be daunting. It’s hard enough to take a shower with a newborn around. Making other types of self-care a priority may seem impossible.
Therapy for new moms gives you a chance to access support for your mind, body, and spirit from someone who understands what you’re going through. We know that you want to do it all, and we believe that you can. You just can’t do it all at once, and you can’t do it alone.
Nurturing yourself is necessary so that you can be the mother that you want to be. With compassionate counseling, you can learn to find the time and the emotional space for healing, managing your new routine, and living the life that you deserve.
The Baby Blues
Although many women fit the criteria for postpartum depression, fewer than half seek help. Changes in mood are expected after having a baby. In fact, our society has come to refer to postpartum depression as just “postpartum.” But if so many women are having trouble feeling like themselves after having children, why aren’t they getting the help that they need?
You don’t have to be Supermom. You should focus on your own needs so that you can better give yourself to your family. There’s nothing wrong with seeking support so that you can tune into your emotions and express your concerns, worries, and anxieties in a healthy way.
Depression doesn’t make you weak or less than a great mother. You don’t have to suffer just because you have more responsibilities than you used to and your hormones are struggling to find equilibrium.
Some of the following symptoms are signs of depression:
• Loss of interest
• Trouble sleeping
• Excessive fatigue
• No energy
• Sadness or tearfulness
• Thoughts about harming yourself or your child
Many new mothers experience melancholy or have these symptoms from time to time. It’s important to let someone know if you’re not feeling like yourself. Whether or not you are diagnosed with depression, you deserve to live a fulfilling, enjoyable life.
While it may be hard to admit that your little bundle of joy isn’t exactly making you happy, it’s ok to feel less than ecstatic about losing yourself in motherhood. But it doesn’t mean that you have to live with those feelings.
Therapy for moms can help you optimize your life so that you find balance within your family dynamic and the other roles that you play. Postpartum depression doesn’t always hit right away; it can develop within the first year after having a child. Anxiety and other emotional struggles can set in at any time and can have just as strong an effect on your life.
Don’t suffer in silence. Reach out to us to learn how therapy for new moms can help you access the mother you were meant to be.
Find Yourself in Motherhood
Motherhood transforms you. You can never go back to the person who you used to be. This can make you feel lost. You don’t have time to engage in the activities that used to interest you. Your desires have shifted. Your priorities have changed.
But you want to be the best role model for your children. You may be in survival mode, but you want to thrive. You want to live with purpose and teach your family that they can do the same.
Therapy for moms lets you draw upon your strength, light, and personal identity to embrace this momentous transformation and become your best self. We are here to uphold and encourage you to get there.
In a world that’s fraught with expectations that make you question whether you’re a great mom, we’re here to tell you that you are. Therapy for moms is not designed to teach you how to become an ideal parent in the eyes of society. It’s all about allowing you to harness everything that you’ve been through and get back in touch with yourself so that you can access your full expression.
You don’t have to do more. You don’t have to be more. You don’t have to be captive to this new stage in your life. You just have to be your true self…
Break free of insecurity, expectations, and convention to carve your own path in the challenging, messy, confusing world of motherhood.
You owe it to yourself to figure out how to regain your sense of self, and you have to start somewhere, or you’ll be left to more loneliness and dissatisfaction. You will continue to feel depressed, to suffer from anxiety, and to feel lost within your own skin.
Put yourself first, by beginning personal therapy or by joining a therapy group for mothers who feel the same way.
If you are ready to carve out some time for yourself, call us at (888) 494-7788 or write us to set up your free consultation session, and begin to explore how counseling can help you be you while being a mom.